Big problem...i don't know what to do...

[Brian2by2]

My best friend has recently started using coke...she doesn't really know that I know because i'm very drug/alcohol free and I guess she feels I can't know.

I'm really scared because other friends are calling me now telling me because they can't stop her and they don't know what to do. I spent last night at her apt. to make sure she didn't do anything stupid because someone told me she was going to do an 8ball which is like 20-40 lines??

It's nuts and I really don't know what to do so if anyone has dealt with this before or has any experience, i'd deeply appreciate it.

My next step if she does it again is getting her parents involved, although I think they should be involved now, but she promised not to do it again.

 

[MarkB]

By all means, get her parents involved. Any support mechanism you or others can provide, will help her to quit.

The main problem is: if she doesn't really want to quit she won't. Like other habits, such as drinking and smoking, the user must want to quit.

 

[4AU4LIFE]

confront her

You have to confront the problem now before it gets worse. If she says that she won't do it again, then getting everyone involved shouldn't matter. Her saying that is typical of what an addict would say.
My best friend in H.S. went thru drug rehab also. It was so hard confronting him about it and then sending him away. The situation ended good though because while he was gone, I was the only person, excluding mother, that asked how he was doing and when he would be back. He said that he will always remember that bad time and my constant support of him. Today we live in adjoining states but are the closest of friends.
If she is truly you friend, STOP HER NOW .

 

[Black Knight]

here's a story....

a boy grew up always taking things that didn't belong to him. his mother thought it was okay since he was still young.

several years later, the same boy was arrested and put in jail for burglary. his mom came to visit and he blamed his mom for not correcting him when he was young....

though you're not a mom you should confront her before it's too late......

 

[Osiris_x11]

early. . .

w/ substance use, such as the aforementioned narcotic of use- timing is key in cessation of the use/habit/abuse. as you stated, your friend is early in use AND therefore can be addressed w/ a high-degree of success. such a substance isn't physically or physiologically addictive early on- BUT it is incredibly psychologically addictive. hence, lifestyle changes and behavioral modifications need to be made. rehab' is an idea- but adherence to being abstinent is self-mitigated as stated in an earlier post above (by:mbartlett4). only those who want to be helped allow themselves to be helped. that's just from my personal and professional/clinical experience. if one wants to aid a person towards quitting such a substance, it needs to be done as an understanding, supportive, open-minded person. and of-course, do it now- or w/ time, it's all that much harder. <keep in mind, the age-background-history-social outlook-personality-etc play dramatically in assessing the situation of the person in need of help>

all the bests'...

f.y.i. an '8ball' is 1/8 of an ounce; roughly 3.5grams... and no, this isn't a "recreational" quanity. if this individual to be addressed- now appears to be time.

 

[tararan]

get her involve on something that will keep her busy. and yeah, you need to let her parents know about this before the blame come chasing after you.

so what if she get mad. rather have a friend that's mad at me than a dead friend.

 

[96-EJ6]

Brian--I'm sorry to hear about this. You absolutely need to confront her and get her parent involved. You need to sop this now before it is too late.

so what if she get mad. rather have a friend that's mad at me than a dead friend.

Best of luck

 

[Brian2by2]

Well guys, the other friend that told me about this exagerrated a little bit, but its still serious. Turns out the 'rat' is also doing it so it got worse in that sense.

I have since gotten BOTH their parents involved, the parents aren't mad but rather glad that I told them and that they caught it early enough.

Thanks for the help. Sometimes you just need to hear something from other people, especially older, wiser people. Thanks again!

 

[4AU4LIFE]

especially older

Who you calling old??
j/k, I hope she gets and stays on the right road.

 

[Joel]

Well guys, the other friend that told me about this exagerrated a little bit, but its still serious. Turns out the 'rat' is also doing it so it got worse in that sense.

This is a cry for help. He/she wouldn't have told you if they didn't want/need it.

 

[Soichiro]

IMO this is a very fine line you are considering crossing. Would you like a friend informing your parents every time you broke the speed limit? Speeding is illegal behaviour after all and some consider it psychologically addicting.

You must assess the situation. Many young people try all sorts of things at an early age yet turn out to be model citizens later in life. If your friend is simply experimenting it may be none of your business. If an experiment turns to addiction you may have more grounds for action. I would rather ask the question "why use drugs" - is there an abusive parent in their past or something else that needs attention?

I'm not saying do this or don't do that; just that the person is an individual and needs help according the their situation.

 

[Brian2by2]

Hey Soichoro, good point, however, it was at the point where the person doing it told everyone that if she did it again, to get me involved because she wants to quit and knows i can make it happen.

It's not experimenting...it may have started out as that, but it has/had become a problem.

Speeding and doing coke/crack cocaine are completely different situations. Most of the circumstances from speeding are in my hands and it is not addictive, while coke/crack is addictive and affects mental state. Bad analogy IMO.