Midlife Crisis Question

[NSXAMG996TT]

Just curious..., my wife thinks I'm having a midlife crisis at the age of 35. She thinks my addiction to cars and now tracking has taken over my life. I'm kinda in denial because I've always had a passion for cars and feel perfectly normal. Personally, cars are simply a form of therapy & stress-relief like any other hobby.

So....
1.) How does one know when a midlife crisis hits them?
2.) What's the duration? At what age?
3.) Is there a cure? Remedy? Solution?
4.) Or is it sorta like a phase every man goes through?

 

[coolnsx]

You can't afford to get hid of her; You can afford the car! EASY :biggrin:

 

[JaguarXJ6]

She thinks my addiction to cars and now tracking has taken over her life. I'm kinda in denial because I've always had a passion for cars and feel perfectly normal.

Apologies in advance, but that is my interpretation of your post.

The question is less about when a male does something crazy to qualify as a mid-life crisis and more to do about how happy you are with the life that you have to make something like that necessary.

Your handle says enough that your wife knew what she was getting into, so what's the real story behind the objection?

It's perfectly normal to put passion and energy into the things you love, be it spouse, work, family/friends, hobbies. It's not normal to have to justify something you've been doing.

 

[steveny]

Midlife Crisis in my definition is panic over your own demise. You know you are over it when acceptance sets in. It really doesn't have much to do with cars.

 

[DocL]

How do you know when you're at your mid-life if you haven't finished your life. Do you think that Tim Russert knew his mid life was at 29?

 

[steveny]

How do you know when you're at your mid-life if you haven't finished your life. Do you think that Tim Russert knew his mid life was at 29?

I always thought mine was 20 as my uncle died from skin cancer at 39 when I was 11. After my 39th birthday I sighed with relief. RIP Uncle Tommy!:frown:

 

[docjohn]

If you were single or dating you would not be asking this ? you would be reveling in your passions.you are not in a midlife crisis you are actualy simply trying to juggle family/work/ hobbies.You and your wife need to work out a schedual so both parties feel like there is a ballance of individual/shared activities.BTW most true midlife crisis occure with one party acting independly of the other,and deal with the consiquences when the sh@#t hits the blades.

 

[davidf]

Your not chasing T@A while hanging out at strip clubs. Your wife should consider herself fortunate. Though my wife does'nt share my passion, shes glad I"m home every night.

 

[92 white 0650]

Re: Don't worry, be happy

So....
1.) How does one know when a midlife crisis hits them?
2.) What's the duration? At what age?
3.) Is there a cure? Remedy? Solution?
4.) Or is it sorta like a phase every man goes through?

1. You'll just know
2. Mine started at 18 when I quit college and joined the Marine Corps and it's still going strong.
3. Not if you're enjoying it. :tongue:
4. It's a phase for some, a lifestyle for the rest of us.

Seriously, at 35, you don't have a midlife crisis, you have a family schedule/priority thing to work out.

Also on a serious note, recently I have been going thru a midlife (aging) crisis, starting to think of retirement, coming to grips with slowed responses and stagnent lap times, spending the last month in ICU with a father in law on life support........... having some "been there done that" memories helps me reconcile with with the reality of aging.

You're just trying to have some deserved fun which will help you thru the real midlife crisis when it really arrives. Be patient and find a comfortable compromise with the wife in terms of schedule and priorities.

Good luck and let us know how it works out.

 

[02#154]

Re: Don't worry, be happy

I think most times when people say mid-life crisis it's actually just being well-off enough to afford the "toys" that they've always wanted up to that point. I think a true mid-life crisis would include doing / buying things to "recapture" one's youth or trying to prove one can still do things that actual young people are doing.

J

 

[TURBO2GO]

When I hear midlife crises I think of a 40 some odd year old guy that is overweight and balding driving a red corvette trying to pickup 20 something year old chix. I don't know what wanting to track an NSX has to do with that. I think your wife is saying you should have other priorities. I don't know what those are, but that is what I think she is saying. What does she want you to be doing instead?

 

[NSXDreamer2]

I never tied Midlife crisis to tracking cars... but now I'm thinking of it.

LOOK AROUND!!!!! Most weren't 20 yrs old, half of them have family, big house, or few nice cars... they are wealthy enough to do things "whenever" they wanted... They are missing work for playtime!!!!!!

and what's wrong with midlife crisis?? People just get jealous because they are still driving their minivan because wife forced them to?

 

[steveny]

Re: Don't worry, be happy

I think most times when people say mid-life crisis it's actually just being well-off enough to afford the "toys" that they've always wanted up to that point. I think a true mid-life crisis would include doing / buying things to "recapture" one's youth or trying to prove one can still do things that actual young people are doing.

J

Yeah, like text messaging, I am so slow at that. I sure wish I could do it fast like the 20 somethings do it.

 

[NeoNSX]

Midlife crisis is when guys who have been living 'safe' do something uncharacteristic. It's blamed too often.

 

[NSXAMG996TT]

Thanks everyone for your inputs!

I always thought a midlife crisis was when a guy hits a wall/dead end in his life and desperately searches for something new/fun. I must admit- I've been using it often as an excuse to me wife to valid my love for cars:wink: .

 

[davidf]

Thanks everyone for your inputs!

I always thought a midlife crisis was when a guy hits a wall/dead end in his life and desperately searches for something new/fun. I must admit- I've been using it often as an excuse to me wife to valid my love for cars:wink: .

Thats the typical male gene.:wink:

 

[Big_D]

My wife has always said that owning my NSX car is part of a Mid Life Crisis. I disagree. I used to work on cars alot and do engine swaps before we had kids. After working my a$$ off for 30 years and buying the big house and putting up fancy drapes etc...I think its MY turn to enjoy something. The nice thing is she enjoys going on drives and thinks the car is pretty sweet.

Your not chasing T@A while hanging out at strip clubs. Your wife should consider herself fortunate. Though my wife does'nt share my passion, shes glad I"m home every night.

+1 I tell my wife the same thing.

When I hear midlife crises I think of a 40 some odd year old guy that is overweight and balding driving a red corvette trying to pickup 20 something year old chix. I don't know what wanting to track an NSX has to do with that. I think your wife is saying you should have other priorities. I don't know what those are, but that is what I think she is saying. What does she want you to be doing instead?

HEY, I AM 40 Odd something and balding :frown:... I told my wife when she turned 40 that I am going to have to trade her in for two 20 year olds...:wink:

 

[mickeylex]

I told my wife when she turned 40 that I am going to have to trade her in for two 20 year olds...:wink:

Haha. Be careful with that. I told my wife something similar and in response she told me that when I turn 75 she will trade me in for three 25 year olds. :wink:

 

[queenlives]

Haha. Be careful with that. I told my wife something similar and in response she told me that when I turn 75 she will trade me in for three 25 year olds. :wink:

and then put the video on youtube

 

[TURBO2GO]

HEY, I AM 40 Odd something and balding :frown:... I told my wife when she turned 40 that I am going to have to trade her in for two 20 year olds...:wink:

Yeah but you have a good attitude... lol...

 

[mickeylex]

and then put the video on youtube

Exactly. That's why I no longer talk about trading her in. :smile:

 

[davidf]

My wife has always said that owning my NSX car is part of a Mid Life Crisis. I disagree. I used to work on cars alot and do engine swaps before we had kids. After working my a$$ off for 30 years and buying the big house and putting up fancy drapes etc...I think its MY turn to enjoy something. The nice thing is she enjoys going on drives and thinks the car is pretty sweet.



+1 I tell my wife the same thing.



HEY, I AM 40 Odd something and balding :frown:... I told my wife when she turned 40 that I am going to have to trade her in for two 20 year olds...:wink:

Honestly, my wife is better in bed than any 20 year old. But two 20 year olds could change my mind, LOL.