Wow, from sappy to happy to heartbreaking tearjerker. Crazy thread. These are the convos I live for. Sad, I know.
Im a 31 yr old asian male. Im not religious but was raised around Buddhism. Youngest of 8 but age gap between me and the next up is 19 years so, as you can imagine, my neices and nephews are my age so I kinda raised myself because my parents were elderly and my siblings only took care of me when they could - which led me to live my life on a whim. Joined the Navy just cuz my friend asked me to. Moved to Arizona for automotive school just cuz my friend asked me too. Im far from a wild child but I did everything and anything I wanted to do.
Having said all that, I married during the Navy (age 20) cuz I thought I could save her. Failed miserably (both our faults). Easy divorce. Both had nothing. She ran off so I had to go to court by myself and a few hundred bucks later, it was done.
I met my now-wife in 2003 and when I went to Arizona for school in 2005, I cheated on her and DESTROYED her, her faith in me, her faith in love, etc. I fought my way back though because I knew my messed up bad and I knew what I had in her. We had our ups and downs throughout the years cuz of random reminders of my fuck-up but we get past it and are now incredibly strong. If I didnt think she was worth it, I coulda just walked away and cut my losses. My close friend saw the torment, guilt, anguish, etc., etc., ETC., that I was going through and one thing she said to me that still rings true today is "just because you messed up, it doesnt mean you dont deserve to be happy." WHOOOOAAAA!!! But again, I kept fighting.
We married last year and she really is the love of my life. We're expecting a baby girl ANY day now. Due date is Oct 5th. I cant imagine my life without her. The year that we were engaged, I was having my own version of cold feet, internally. Asking myself if its the right decision. All my teen/adult life, I was rarely ever single so I questioned whether it was just feeding that or if it was true. I dont have the answer and I probably never will but it doesnt matter. All the other posts here say it all. Compromise, laugh together, understand each other and you just gotta love being with one another. Once the sex wears out (which it will, unless you plan on using viagra in a rocking chair), you wanna be happy, TRULY happy sitting on rocking chairs side by side and laughing with one another.
I cant wait to see what life holds for us. We just got married August 18th, 2012 so we got a LONG way to go to compare stories with most everyone else on here but Im confident. I dont care about the paper that says we're married either but its the symbolism of it. I dont know if she'll ever believe me or understand but Im glad I got my slutty days out of the way (not saying that temptation will no longer affect me the rest of my life) because it was the biggest mistake yet the best mistake of my life. Its good that it happened so I could put things into perspective and to build character in myself. I dont mean to say that it was necessary in my journey but it was a "good" thing.
Her and I are the last generation of our families to be old fashioned so she does the little things I value. Im not sexist or anything but she cooks and cleans and does EVERYTHING a guy could ask for. Im a scrawny guy so she tries to always make sure Im fed. Little things are so trivial yet so volitale....so....huge. She stood by me as I went through all my cars and motorcycles and never said anything. She let me be me. Its crazy. Im extremely fortunate. To me, the ULTIMATE goal is to have someone walking beside you throughout life and to have life beyond your own (kids). Im INCREDIBLY anxious for my daughter to arrive. Ive tried to preach to my wife the idea of simplicity. Like not nagging when im watching football, making me a sandwich when im hungry, ya kno, the important stuff, hahahaha, jk. No but I do harp on simplicity. Dont cause undue stress for no reason. Dont complain if you're not gonna do anything about it. It seems to be working. Even when she DOES nag or gets upset, its because I was being an idiot or (after investigation) she is just wanting some affection.
All my male coworkers say all the stereotypical things about a nagging wife, "its cheaper to keep her", life is over, blah blah blah. Im not sure if its the typical white guy thing or what but damn, that shit is DEPRESSING. Who the f*CK did you MARRY MAN!?!? Lol. They make it sound like they were in an arranged marriage or something. WTH. You gotta understand what you're getting into...at LEAST try to get a CLUE on who she is before you slipping the ring on her finger.
It all depends on the lifestyle. Ive always been independent but Im not popular enough or outgoing enough to have a big circle of friends to occupy myself enough to be single forever. It seems depressing and empty (no offence to you single guys). I could go on forever.
Here's our wedding highlight video for anyone who cares. Our vows are played over half, if not most, of the clip. I have to admit I was pretty proud of mine and I try to live by it as much as I can. And yes, I WOULD change her diaper.
http://youtu.be/W4DlnabC09E
or if that doesnt work,
http://vimeo.com/56706999