Any of these sizes generally work fine for the NSX:
215/45-16 and 245/40-17
215/45-16 and 255/40-17
205/45-16 and 245/40-17
205/45-16 and 255/40-17 (this last one is not as good as the first three, particularly on a '95-05 NSX).
However, are you sure that your rear wheels are 17x8 and not wider? If so, you'll need to use 245 in the rear, not the 255 (which generally needs at least 17x8.5).
my main goal tire wise for this set is longer tread life, excellent wet weather traction, and the best dry weather that matches up.
Based on those criteria, your best bets are these three, which are all available in 205/45-16 and 245/40-17:
BFGoodrich g-Force Sport COMP-2
Bridgestone Potenza RE760 Sport
Yokohama S.drive
The Tire Rack did a side-by-side comparison test of all three of these tires, which you can view by clicking
here. Note that they particularly liked the BFGoodrich for its wet traction. (I've been in your area in pouring rain, most recently when Hurricane Sandy hit at the end of the Frank Lloyd Wright event in western PA this past October, and I can understand your concern for great traction in wet weather!)
These are all summer tires and aren't going to give good traction in snow or frigid temperatures.