Reposting per the moderators request:
"Not interested in having kids - who else feels this way?"
"Not interested in having kids - who else feels this way?"
Reposting per the moderators request:
"Not interested in having kids - who else feels this way?"
My post was NOT intended to garner responses from those who
inform us about how great parenting is or other reasons why parenting
brings them joy. My post was to inquire how many prime member feel the way I do - PERIOD!!!
My post was NOT intended to garner responses from those who
inform us about how great parenting is or other reasons why parenting
brings them joy. My post was to inquire how many prime member feel the way I do - PERIOD!!!
"Not interested in having kids - who else feels this way?"
I was trying to explain that I use to feel the way you do currently. I would be interested in knowing why you feel the way you feel. I am not trying to convert you just would like to know why you feel the way you do? What is your age? have you always felt this way? Do you feel you might have to give something up if you had children? I was just hoping to give you some perspective from someone who was HARDCORE on the no kid train for a long time, in fact I didn't have my first until I was 42. But again i met mostly self centered women who made life miserable and knew nothing about team work. Knowing what I know now I waited too long and wish I had done it sooner, even at the expense of whatever I may have had to give up. I did think I would have to give up a lot more than I actually did have to give up.
The wife and I were just discussing this last night over dinner at a pizza place surrounded by families, screaming kids, etc. (wasn't chucky cheese either)
We prefer to be DINKs and certainly enjoy celebrating the children of our friends, attending birthdays, events, etc. She is a 5th grade teacher, so she definitely likes kids, well.. most of the time. She mentioned that she has to address the "why no kids" question on a weekly basis from other women.
Me, it simply has been a choice to enjoy my personal freedom and travel the planet. Also keeps funds free to support ownership of a nice car.
If you have kids with the wrong person you're screwed. The best decision I ever made was getting married to the right person, with a mother-in-law who is at our house EVERY day helping with our children. A mother-in-law who will take the kids at a moments notice. Like someone above said with the on and off switch thing. It's impossible to shut off a 3 year old or a 6 month old, they just keep coming at you a million miles an hour. Without my wife and mother-in-law I would be screwed.
However, the other day my 3 year old sees that I am unhappy about something, says to me make a sad face daddy, I frown, make a happy face, I smile, then she holds her hand up palm forward and says...stay right there. .
When I was young and single or even in a relationship I never wanted kids. I was the one up on a soap box screaming that I would never have kids. Most of that was observations I made of friends I witnessed have their lives ruined by vindictive women who used the kids as pawns to get back at deadbeat guys who didn't step up when they needed to. This was true of couples who were staying together or separating.
The love between two people can be unbelievable. The love between a parent and child is unexplainable.
Great post. One thing I've learned in life is to always take smart peoples advise and at least consider it. The fact that a few guys here have said they used to be against having kids and were wrong tells me, logically, maybe I'm wrong. My mind is 1 degree more open to the idea
I dont "want" kids
my fiancee does....I lose :redface:
Let me say this yet again:
My post was NOT intended to garner responses from those who
inform us about how great parenting is or other reasons why parenting
brings them joy. My post was to inquire how many prime member feel the way I do - PERIOD!!!
As to how I came to this decision or how old I am or other inquiries.
See PARAGRAPH ABOVE. If you do not feel the way I do start a different thread discussing why you enjoy being a parent and ......