You know, I've really been feeling old lately. Part of it is hitting 40, part of it is seeing my parents over Thanksgiving and seeing just how old they look and act and how many health problems they have. Part of it is having extremely young kids for my age and sometimes finding it difficult to keep up with them because my back hurts most of the time these days. When my parents were the age I am today, I was already 20 and here I am with an 18 month old and an almost 3 year old and I feel it's not fair to them that I waited this long to have kids. I feel like I was selfish for taking more time for myself to have fun. It never even occurred to me that I'd feel this way, but kids change everything.
Today something really hit me sort of hard. I was at a restaurant having dinner with my family. An old couple (80s maybe?) were in the booth next to us and playing little waving games with my 18 month old daughter. When they were leaving, they came up to her and the old woman, with tears in her eyes told my daughter to have a really nice life and that she meant it.
It must be so hard for someone that old who is growing close to the end of their life to see someone just beginning theirs. Given how I feel at 40, I can't imagine how I'd feel at 80, if I even live that long.
Beautiful post Robr and frankly, this kind of mature, thought provoking thread is the reason that I keep coming back to Prime.
While I'm a bit younger than you (35) my wife (32) and I are thinking about starting a family. We're literally the last of our circle of good friends not to have children (many of our friends our on their 2nd child). Both of our parents were married very young and the knowledge that when my mom was my age, I was in high school is startling.
On one hand, I was lucky enough to be born to young parents and enjoy many years with grandparents and great grandparents. On the other, because I was born so young I've been old enough to truly understand what it means when each of them passes from this earth.
I try and plan for tomorrow but live for today. While I'm freaking out about the economic ramifications of getting older and having kids (long term health care and college education at the same time literally scares the shit out of me), I hope I can carry this philosophy into the next stage of my life.
Enjoy your kids... enjoy what you've got and live for today while you plan for tomorrow.