Well, the reason "I don't give a damn" is because there is more to life to worry about at the moment than someone spewing out a racial slur. It's not enough that anyone should be getting their panties in a bunch. Personally, I say you can cry about it on your way to the bank in your new R8 (because there is no new nsx) with your hot girlfriend until it's time to go home from work to be with the wife.
I couldn't figure out half of what you are trying to say, but the message I got is: "Don't get your panties in a bunch by saying it's offensive."
1. That is trivializing the matter.
2. Just because some people are educated and know what is tactful and what is not, doesn't mean they are upset or "have their panties in a bunch." How immature do you have to be to even suggest that?
We can stand up against ignorant comments or racial intolerance without "getting our panties in a bunch." We can make sound arguments and let people know how we feel without getting upset.
I suppose you have to keep your mouth shut or laugh ignorantly like a dote to be cool? Not in my opinion. I don't care what anyone thinks. I know what is right and what is wrong and what is tacky and what is not.
It's funny that "don't get your panties in a bunch" is THE most common retort people have against people who are being politically correct. It's funny how that's the first reply to come out of every opponents mouth when someone tells someone else that they've made a racially insensitive comment.
And I find it sad you let your friends call you "Ch*naman". It doesn't matter if it was an inside joke and they didn't mean it, that is just plain retarded. Can you imagine a bunch of white guys calling their black friend the n-word? Out in public? You do know who looks like the idiot in the bunch right?
These things may not bother you personally--good for you--but you are weakening everyone else in your race by letting people do this.
I hope you don't let people call your kid "Ch*naman" either now or in the future. It's weak not to stand up for yourself. You don't have to laugh and brush it off to NOT let it bother you. Hell, these things don't get to me, but I still say something because something needs to be said. If no African Americans said anything about using the N-word, do you think white people would have stopped? Hell no.
And I am not saying whine and complain like Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson. Just stand up for yourself in a calm and logical manner.