oh boy, what a chore
Alright, here you go: read carefully,
Video1: Caucasian girl calls out Asians==mistake==> calling others out
Video2: Asian guy makes a lot of insulting remarks (b$tch, can't read, Slu%t ) to the girl in personal and calls out white people and Americans in general==mistake==> personal insults unacceptable, sexual insults unacceptable, and calling people out in retaliation to being called out also unacceptable.
Video3: Asian guy makes very lewd sexual remarks==mistake==> sorry I tried to watch that video again and I stopped a few seconds into watching it again. Somebody should detain that guy and lock him up before he does something to the community.
My first reply:
Caucasian girl calling out Asians = Wrong
1st Asian guy making sexual remarks and calling out whites in retaliation = wrong
2nd Asian guy making lewd sexual remarks as well as whatever God knows is in that video in retaliation = Wrong
Thread replies containing sexual remarks = wrong
End of reply.
Now this is as clear as I can make it out to you. I can't help you any further than this.
Let me precede this post by saying I really have no problems with the video at all. As noted by my post here:
It's really not a big deal. I'm Asian, and I really couldn't care less. Not saying it's right or nice, but people are also just being hyper sensitive.
However, I can certainly understand why some people were offended and I am merely explaining the possible reasons why. Also, please note I’m not singling you out, I’m only using your post as a outline for responses so that some people can better understand the backlash caused by the video.
I’m going to guess you aren’t Asian. The reason I am guessing this is because you don’t have seem to have the deep understanding as to why the original video could be more offensive than just what you are claiming it as “just calling out Asians”. That is a commonality I have experienced with many non-minorities (aka Caucasians) who just have no frame of reference as to what it is like to be discriminated, made fun of, insulted or hated simply on the basis of their race. As a majority, Caucasians, can’t grasp why minorities might possible have a chip on their shoulder or be sensitive in a culture where they are often lumped together (stereotyped), discriminated, or felt left out. It’s hard enough in this country being a minority, then someone goes on Youtube and insults their culture, they way they speak, their family values? That is where the backlash is coming from. Not because they are being “called out” in a public forum.
Look, being called out isn’t the issue. I call out my own race all the time. Asians are freaking horrible drivers. They often smell funny or make some of the most pungent food known to man. And we eat weird stuff. And yes, sometimes the way we speak is funny. That’s being called out. That’s not offensive. What is the issue is that she made comments that speak to a greater underlying general culture that hints at a belief that Caucasians are the majority, and Asians (and other minorities) are the unwelcomed invaders. While that might sound like a total stretch to you, I can assure you that it is completely real and valid. Talk to any Asian at length and I’m sure they can regale you of tales of feeling unwelcomed, like a fish out of water, being told to go back to “China” (even though they are a US born citizen and not even Chinese), made fun of for looking different, etc. It is a common experience that almost every Asian I’ve met and spoken to has had to experience. In fact it’s almost a bonding experience, a collective understanding, a rite of passage. Caucasians have no idea what I’m talking about, but Asians can almost give each other a silent nod of understanding.
Again, it’s not being called out. Most people, including Asians, won’t be offended by people “telling it like it is”. While on Youtube, go ahead and do a search on “Asian jokes”. There is a lot of “calling out” without a lot of uproar as you see here. So you must ask yourself, “why?” The reason is because it her general thinking pattern and tone that Asians are all too familiar with. It is the same general thinking and tone that makes them feel like an outside, unwelcome and sometimes even hated.
There were numerous points where this is demonstrated:
When she refers to Asians as “them”: It is clear that she has an Us vs. Them mentality. As an Asian, I don’t refer to Caucasians as “them”. They are my neighbor, my co-worker, my friend, a stranger, etc. They aren’t a collective whole, they are individuals.
She references “American manners” and Asians lacking them: What exactly is “American manners?” I’m Asian and I’m American. Do I not have “American manners?” Does she not realize that America is a melting pot of many different cultures, including Asian? When she said “American manners” she really implied “Caucasian manners” which again clearly exemplifies her Us Vs. Them mentality.
She mimics Asian speak with “Ching Chong Ting Tong”: I can’t even begin to describe how patently offensive that is to an Asian person. First off, and most obviously, mocks the way they speak. Secondly, it lumps all Asians into some collective whole. We all don’t talk that way. If fact, only the Chinese have a dialect that even remotely resembles a Ching Chong style of speaking. Asians are as diverse as Caucasians but are rarely seen that way (all Asians look alike). Look, I’ve known Caucasians who get offended if you don’t know what state they are from (Texas vs. Oklahoma) let alone call them Canadian or vice versa. It can be incredibly offensive to be called the incorrect Asian culture or lumped into one, especially if you knew the history of many of the Asian nations (war atrocities, feuds etc.)
Look, I could go on and on about the multiple comments that underline a clear general thought pattern of an Us Vs. Them mentality, and a general feeling of disdain and unwelcomeness. I can see these things because I’ve had to. I’ve had to recognize that thought pattern because in the past I’ve been harassed, bullied, or threatened to be beat up by that. People who would want to kick my ass because they felt I didn’t belong, or people would hurl insults at me or tell me to get out of “their” country (for the record, I am a US born citizen and speak fluent English). As a minority, it’s a survival skill I’ve had to develop.
I know it’s impossible to get you to see an entire cultural perception and a lifetime of discrimination in a single post, but I hope I can at least shed some light to you (and others) that things aren't as simple and clear cut as they might seem. There is often more than what is on the surface and if you take the time to understand them, then you might realize that why there is such a collective backlash. It’s not mere coincidence. It’s not that everyone is just super sensitive. There has to be something deeper as to why a collective culture could simultaneously be offended by some comments all at the same time. Hopefully I did a good job of explaining some of them above.