My wife and I have been going through the same thing for 7 years. It's both upsetting and frustrating. We're just not sure what to do next. Invitro or Adopt? I wish insurance covered Invitro.
I've been there too, it's a rough go.
First we tried Clomid, then several unsuccessful IVF attempts. The cycle of injections, early morning sonograms, hope, and, ultimately disappointment was emotionally and financially draining. One time, we managed to produced a good blastocyst which was implanted. For the next few days I was filled with hope and love for those few tiny cells - it was an incredible feeling and a connection that I never felt before - but sadly, again, it didn't work out.
We decided to try adoption. Placed ads in local weeklies all around the country, got an 800 line installed, printed up the adoption brochures... and waited. And waited. The first time the phone rang we freaked out with excitement and must've sounded like total idiots on the phone, since the girl hung up on us. Many calls later we found ourselves flying to the middle of nowhere to meet an expectant mother, who eventually gave us her baby - only to send state troopers to our motel room to take the baby back just hours before the judge was to make the adoption official. One of the saddest days of my life, next to the day I lost my dad.
The stress of all this took a huge toll on our marriage and we ultimately ended up getting divorced. I got remarried, to a wonderful woman who has 4 kids, and while being a stepparent has challenges of an entirely different sort, I love my life now and wouldn't trade my family for anything.
Many people have success with IVF or adoption, but neither road is easy and if there is any endeavor where you have to hope for the best and prepare for the worst, it's this. I wish you the best of luck with whatever path you choose. Any time you want to reach out or need an ear, feel free to shoot me a PM. -Russ