As a few have noticed, I have not been around the boards much lately. My divorce started late last year with a separation. I have been trying desperately to save the marriage ever since... to no avail. I just filed on the 13th, and it was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I didn't want a divorce, but it NEEDED to happen. I love her VERY much, but we have grown apart, and aren't nearly the same people we were when we got married. She is not the person I thought she was, and is DEFINITELY NOT the person I fell in love with, but I'm sure she could say the same. And, to make things even worse, I moved from CA to WI to try and save my marriage, so now I have NO family, or friends to turn to. All I have is her family out here, and they all hate me now, which is a twisted sense of logic considering she is the one that abandoned the marriage. We haven't established residency in WI yet (6 mos), so I had to fly back to CA at the end of Jan to file.
I have had a lot of sh!t happen in my life, most of it in the last few years...
A lifelong dream career of mine ended (was taken away from me) back in 04', then a few months later my brother (one year older than I) was murdered in front of his four children, at his own home. 5 months later my sister (2 years younger) was found in Orange County behind a muffler shop in an alley with head trauma. She left behind a 4 year old son who is now being raised by my parents. Then... 2 months later, my only remaining grandparent (My moms mother) died, two weeks before I was to take my daughter to meet her great grandmother. Having said ALL of that...
This divorce is the most financially and emotionally draining thing I have ever gone through. If it weren't for my kids and family, I'm not even sure I would still be here. The kids are what makes this the hardest, because without them, I could just walk away... and go home, but I can't do that anymore. If I would have known that this was even a possibility, I never would have gotten married. I never believed in Divorce, and NEVER thought I would have to go through it, because I married for LIFE, but apparently she did not. The only thing that gives me hope, is those that have turned their lives around since their divorce, because not only am Inear financial bankruptcy, but I am definitely EMOTIONALLY Bankrupt!!!
Right now, everything is amicable,and I pray it stays that way, but I will keep all of this in mind.
She had a 2karat $20k diamond ring... didn't matter much! :biggrin: