Well, if my divorce wasn't official before, it is now...
I thought before "maybe it will work out later", or "maybe we will work it out before the divorce is final", but it's over, and I have accepted that now. I told her last week that I was done and I was leaving, I need to take care of myself instead of killing myself trying to make her happy. I packed all I could into a 6x12 Uhaul (she can keep the rest for now), and I left for CA Saturday night. I'm headed home, where I will have the support of my friends and family, instead of her lies and an environment of hostility with her family. "IF" we could have made it work before, it would have had to happen in WI, but my move back to CA ensures that it will never work out, because the move also ensures a custody battle, in which I will have to petition the courts (CA, which is where I filed :wink: ) to have the children returned to their state of residency. She keeps saying "how can you do this to them?", but I didn't, she did. She knew before we moved what her intentions were, and moved me to WI under fraudulent conditions. Because if that were not true, everything would have worked out after I did exactly EVERYTHING she asked, but in the end it was never enough.
I left WI and arrived in MO yesterday, where I am just visiting family. I'll be back on the road to CA on Wednesday morning, and be there by Fri at the latest. I already miss my children (6 and 3) like mad, but I am talking to them every day. The next couple of months are going to be EXTREMELY difficult, because I will not be able to see them, but it will all be worth it in the end. I just need to concentrate on the future, and not the pain/anger I'm feeling now. My focus needs to be on reestablishing myself out in CA, and getting a place set up so that when when we go to mediation the judge will see that I already have a place for the kids to live. And even at this point, if she wanted to move back to CA to work things out, I would have to say no... I just need time to fix me, and be myself without worrying about her, if she's lying, or what she's doing. I am looking VERY forward to the rest of my drive as it will give me time to reflect, time to think about everything, and time to just relax and move on...
I thought before "maybe it will work out later", or "maybe we will work it out before the divorce is final", but it's over, and I have accepted that now. I told her last week that I was done and I was leaving, I need to take care of myself instead of killing myself trying to make her happy. I packed all I could into a 6x12 Uhaul (she can keep the rest for now), and I left for CA Saturday night. I'm headed home, where I will have the support of my friends and family, instead of her lies and an environment of hostility with her family. "IF" we could have made it work before, it would have had to happen in WI, but my move back to CA ensures that it will never work out, because the move also ensures a custody battle, in which I will have to petition the courts (CA, which is where I filed :wink: ) to have the children returned to their state of residency. She keeps saying "how can you do this to them?", but I didn't, she did. She knew before we moved what her intentions were, and moved me to WI under fraudulent conditions. Because if that were not true, everything would have worked out after I did exactly EVERYTHING she asked, but in the end it was never enough.
I left WI and arrived in MO yesterday, where I am just visiting family. I'll be back on the road to CA on Wednesday morning, and be there by Fri at the latest. I already miss my children (6 and 3) like mad, but I am talking to them every day. The next couple of months are going to be EXTREMELY difficult, because I will not be able to see them, but it will all be worth it in the end. I just need to concentrate on the future, and not the pain/anger I'm feeling now. My focus needs to be on reestablishing myself out in CA, and getting a place set up so that when when we go to mediation the judge will see that I already have a place for the kids to live. And even at this point, if she wanted to move back to CA to work things out, I would have to say no... I just need time to fix me, and be myself without worrying about her, if she's lying, or what she's doing. I am looking VERY forward to the rest of my drive as it will give me time to reflect, time to think about everything, and time to just relax and move on...
