Matt I think you already looked at the best car for your criteria. What do you care what some guys think about if a car is manly or girly? Some guys think all guys should drive are trucks.
The mini is an awesome car that is efficient, has awesome performance, is a ton of fun to drive, where no two are exactly the same.
Do you care about the opinion of a bunch of guys that really may or may not be all that familiar with the car? This car is SMALL. Small is not the same as girly. You can take this small car and put so much power and handling in it that it will run circles around "manly" cars. There were a ton of Minis at the Trackmasters event I was at and they were fast enough to keep up with anything out there. How is that girly? Some of the exhaust systems they have for this car sound downright awesome. They burble, and the car screams around corners. Have you seen some of these race?
I don't like these other suggestions as much, because none of them have the overall package the Mini offers. The GTI is a great car but do you want a car that is unreliable, less efficient, and that you will take a bath on in 2 years?The Mini had the best resale value of any car in the U.S. last year. Is your money valuable to you? Do you want to just take your gas savings and spend it on depreciation instead?
So what if someone's sister or mother has a Mini. I doubt its a JCW. Is a base BMW 525 the same as an M5? You own one, you tell me. Besides, you still have your NSX, right? what better car for an efficient DD than a turbocharged Mini to sit alongside your NSX.
If there is any hint of the car being feminine, its in the minds of some guys. If I gave you a suit that you wore, where certain guys thought it was too girly, but women thought looked great, would you wear it? Because I know PLENTY of young hot women and none of them think that a guy that has a nice mini is girly. They always want to check the car out and like it. You buy one and you will see how many thumbs ups you will get from women. The car is FUN. Some guys just don't get it.
I like the car with the front black-out treatment like this one:
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