ok forum, here are the basics:
- gf A (Jane), bro A (John) and bro B (Joe) all live in a 2br apartment
- Jane (college student) occupies 1/2 of bro A's room, half of the living room with her major/hobby specific equipment, does not pay rent, but cooks/cleans the bathroom/apt to help out
- gf B (Jill) visits/sleeps over moderately and also cooks for everyone
- Jill occupies half of bro B's room only (closet/drawers), but is not officially 'living in' the apt
- all 4 individuals get along during the first 6 months
- then Jill tells Jane that she is 'confused' about relationship with Joe
- Jane tells Jill that she won't tell anyone, so Jill talks about most recent events with ex-bf (ex-bf wants Jill back and tries to hang out with Jill, but Jill is resistant, ef bf managed to be present at apt where Jill was staying at) & issues w Joe
- eventually, Jill breaks up with Joe
- Jill removes all her clothes and belongings from the apt
- Joe cries for weeks while couple A try to cheer him up
- a few days after break up, Jane tells John that she knows things related to couple B's break up
- John tells Jane that she should tell Joe because he deserves to know the truth, but Jane hesitant
- on one occassion, Joe is crying in the kitchen, John hugs him, and Jane decides to tell him the truth (Jill, who broke up with ex bf of 3+ years, is confused about current relationship with Joe and needed time to think about things)
Jane decided to finally tell Joe because:
- if Joe got over the break up quickly or did not seem to care about it, then she would not have said anything
- Joe happens to be John's younger brother. if he was any other person, then she would not have told at all.
- she cannot bare to see him cry over and over without letting him know the full truth
- she said 'he seemed really hurt and bothered by what happened. what kind of a cold hearted person would i be if
i just let him cry without at least telling him the full truth behind the breakup?'
- eventually Joe and Jill worked their issues out and are together again
- HOWEVER, Jane and Jill have not spoken to each other ever since couple B reunited
- Jill feels like she deserves an apology from Jane for revealing a secret to Joe, who thinks that secret is harmless, because Jane told Jill she will not tell anybody???
- Joe feels that finding out the truth did not change anything, thought the truth was harmless, and eventually had Jill tell him everything, she did not hide it from him when confronted
so here are the questions:
- who should apologize?
- does Jill deserve an apology from Jane?
- was Jane wrong for telling the Joe the truth about the break up?
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- gf A (Jane), bro A (John) and bro B (Joe) all live in a 2br apartment
- Jane (college student) occupies 1/2 of bro A's room, half of the living room with her major/hobby specific equipment, does not pay rent, but cooks/cleans the bathroom/apt to help out
- gf B (Jill) visits/sleeps over moderately and also cooks for everyone
- Jill occupies half of bro B's room only (closet/drawers), but is not officially 'living in' the apt
- all 4 individuals get along during the first 6 months
- then Jill tells Jane that she is 'confused' about relationship with Joe
- Jane tells Jill that she won't tell anyone, so Jill talks about most recent events with ex-bf (ex-bf wants Jill back and tries to hang out with Jill, but Jill is resistant, ef bf managed to be present at apt where Jill was staying at) & issues w Joe
- eventually, Jill breaks up with Joe
- Jill removes all her clothes and belongings from the apt
- Joe cries for weeks while couple A try to cheer him up
- a few days after break up, Jane tells John that she knows things related to couple B's break up
- John tells Jane that she should tell Joe because he deserves to know the truth, but Jane hesitant
- on one occassion, Joe is crying in the kitchen, John hugs him, and Jane decides to tell him the truth (Jill, who broke up with ex bf of 3+ years, is confused about current relationship with Joe and needed time to think about things)
Jane decided to finally tell Joe because:
- if Joe got over the break up quickly or did not seem to care about it, then she would not have said anything
- Joe happens to be John's younger brother. if he was any other person, then she would not have told at all.
- she cannot bare to see him cry over and over without letting him know the full truth
- she said 'he seemed really hurt and bothered by what happened. what kind of a cold hearted person would i be if
i just let him cry without at least telling him the full truth behind the breakup?'
- eventually Joe and Jill worked their issues out and are together again
- HOWEVER, Jane and Jill have not spoken to each other ever since couple B reunited
- Jill feels like she deserves an apology from Jane for revealing a secret to Joe, who thinks that secret is harmless, because Jane told Jill she will not tell anybody???
- Joe feels that finding out the truth did not change anything, thought the truth was harmless, and eventually had Jill tell him everything, she did not hide it from him when confronted
so here are the questions:
- who should apologize?
- does Jill deserve an apology from Jane?
- was Jane wrong for telling the Joe the truth about the break up?
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